Friday, January 8, 2016

had ourselves a merry little christmas

christmas was super special this past year.  not only was dax 4 years old and full of excitement and wonder, but all of my side of the family joyously descended upon north carolina for a southern christmas!  a christmas without travel is amazing!  conti and i filled their bellies with meatballs, cheeseplates, prime rib, and even banana pancakes.  it was amazing to have time at the holidays with everyone together.  we loved all being around and able to watch dax feel the excitement and enjoy all of his new toys and gifts! 

we spent christmas eve at auntie conti's house.  it was amazing that everyone could come to town and between the two of us we had beds for everyone and nobody had to stay in a hotel!  that has never happened before! everybody enjoyed seeing conti and keek's new home in the south.  james even got to play a round of golf with uncle keek.  he and keek love some golf!

dax's santa list comprised of a bicycle, a kazoo and underpants!  santa did a great job being a good listener and got dax everything he asked for and more.  will and i got dax an instant camera and a watch with a timer.  he loved all of his gifts and enjoyed unwrapping everything to find out what was next even more!  he had too many gifts with all of the family sending him things, and he spent practically the entire day unwrapping!  with his big boy bike being his main gift he was excited to get outside and test it out.  we all went out to watch dax on his first big boy bike ride.  the weather was a balmy 75, so will even walked around in shorts with no shoes.  c'est la holidays in the south!
the entire group!
sleepy boy forgot that this was christmas morning!
"i got a bicycle!"
the kazoo!
gran helping dax learn how to ride his bike.  (don't worry a new helmet is on the way.  the one we ordered was too snug!)
dax using his new instant camera.  he LOVED taking pictures!
the family playing like "jimmy fallon" with dax's new musical instruments.
we all had a great time at the holidays and are looking forward to a healthy, fun and happy 2016!  we've got a feeling this year will be something amazing!

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

searching for bliss - adoption status update

people have lately asked us how things are going with the adoption.  are we still waiting?  any news?  have you heard anything?  when do you think it will happen?

today i was reminded it's been 6 months.  6 months since we became an active waiting family for this second adoption.  6 months since our book was available for review.  6 months since our profiles were put into the mix for any matching opportunities.  6 months since we've been ready.

even though 6 months have passed we don't know anything more than we knew back in june.  we pray for our sweet baby every day and we hope that she and her tummy mommy are well and protected from harm's way.  we pray that God helps the sweet baby that He has intended for us to raise find their way to us.

we think about her often.  we even talk about what she will and won't like, if she'll like a certain song, or to play a certain game.  dax will say - you think she like it?  i say, yes, yes - i think she'll love it.

however, regardless of how long we wait - we know that its God's timing and not ours.  while we'd like to have her here with us now and we dream about having her here for Christmas, or the new year, or will's birthday, etc. - we know that it's going to happen when it's supposed to happen and we find comfort in knowing that.

God knows best and he knows yesterday, today and tomorrow.  when He's ready for her to be here - she'll come home.

Monday, November 9, 2015

happiest of the happy birthdays

the sweetest boy in the whole wide world has been four years old for less than 24 hours now.  dax was so excited for his birthday party.  he's been talking about it since my birthday back in september.  the suspense of having the party, getting some presents, and hanging out with friends and family were all he needed to keep him going.  every time he'd want a toy from a store we'd tell him to add it to his list.  the list kept getting longer and longer, but it included a theme of products including trucks, cars, spider man toys, and anything concerning the paw patrol.  luckily everyone had him covered.

thursday evening all of the family started to arrive to begin dax's week-end long birthday celebration.  we went to dinner with my dad that evening and dax was a total ham.  people kept asking if they could come to his birthday party and he'd give his classic answers of late: "maybe a morrow" or "we already did that last night".  both answers are interchangeable, and have no truth or reason to them.  he cracks up like he thinks it's so funny, just like when he tells you that "you're giving" him "a heart attack!"  he came up with this from when we scared daddy at hide and seek a few weeks back.  now he uses it all of the time, and even springs it on a waitress at dinner.  oh mercy!

friday we celebrated national adoption month by speaking at our agency's quarterly meeting for adoptive hopefuls.  will and i were on the other side of the tables about five years ago, and we'll still never forget that meeting.  this time we were lined up front with some other adoptive parents and our son's birth mother.  what a special time.  we got to indirectly and directly speak our love for each other in our roles as daxton's family.  we are so honored to have dax's birth mom in our lives and for her to be able to watch him grow, learn, and change.  we made each other a little teary when we expressed our heartfelt feelings for each other.  it was a special time that i'll never forget.

friday evening we were greeted with will's parent's arrival and the arrival of my mom and granny.  dax was excited for everyone to arrive and to even see a giant spider-man balloon left for him on the front porch!  it was just about as tall as he was, and it did almost give me a heart attack when i found it outside!  we all enjoyed dax's favorite pizza dinner and dax kept asking over and over if he could open the presents!  we told him he just had to wait one more sleep for the party day!

saturday morning we woke up to the sound of pouring rain.  the sky was dark, the fog was thick, and the rain was steady.  we all loaded up into the car and drove 45 minutes into down town raleigh to meet up at the museum of natural science for dax's school friends party.  we were glad to see that some of his besties showed up, despite the yucky weather.  dax and his friends enjoyed learning about animals, making collages, meeting and petting a bug, a bullfrog, a dove, and a bunny.  they were amazed with the little creatures!  the kids had fun dancing and hopping like bunnies!  after all of the fun dax got to hear the happy birthday song he's been singing to himself all week and the kids enjoyed the birthday cake and ice cream.  after they were all hopped up on sugar the boys played a game that had them running after each other around the room.  dax and lucas had a blast just running around like crazy men!  kendall watched the boys and thought they were quite silly.  everyone had a good time.

after the museum party we headed back home and it had finally stopped raining.  we were so thankful since we were planning on having a cookout for about twenty people!  it all worked out and we got to spend the afternoon enjoying will's great grilled offers and a coffee bar in celebration of dad's belated birthday.  all of the caffeine kept the adults awake and ready for a full day of partying.  after lunch dax began opening gifts.  he got 50 matchbox cars, two race tracks, a giant chase - paw patrol - dog, some new clothes, a spider man toy, and some new books.  he was very excited to open every single package!  
after playing with his gifts for the afternoon we got a great visit from dax's birth family.  we were so ecstatic to hang out with dax's birth mother, birth father, half brother, and cousins.  the kids were having a blast playing together and it was so special to watch dax play his racetrack with his birth father.  the only other time we'd hung out with him before was when dax was about 6 months old and dax screamed bloody murder the entire time!  this was much more pleasurable!  we saw so much of dax in our interactions with his biological dad.  they have the same sense of humor, personable and friendly personalities - sounds of laughter always flowing out - and then that huge smile!   we love spending time with our extended family and hope that we'll get to continue to do that as long as we shall live!

this morning we headed out for dax's birthday pancakes.  the boy knows what he likes, and he wanted pancakes and pancakes!  so, we all loaded up and went out for blueberry pancakes.  the waitress delivered the pancakes with candles in them and the entire dining room sang happy birthday to dax.  he was smiling ear to ear!  he ate his entire breakfast and was very happy with all of the fan fare.  after the breakfast we wished will's parents well on their journey home and we took a family nap.  dax slept in the middle of our bed and will and i snuggled up to him on each side.  who knows how many more moments we'll have like these, since dax keeps reminding us how he's a big boy!

daxton - at four years old
  • loves to get ready by himself.  can put on his own underpants, pants, socks, shoes, and most shirts.
  • loves to go potty by himself.  can get the pants down, get the pants up, wash the hands, dry the hands.
  • can write his name all by himself.  he prefers to do a "D" then an "X" and then a backwards "a".
  • loves to open doors all by himself and hold them opened for others behind him.  everyone is always impressed by his doorman skills.
  • loves to apologize each night for anything that he's sorry about (its a sort of confessional).  he sometimes says he is sorry for making a mess, having an accident, hitting the dog, making someone mad or upset etc.  it's a sweet little thing he does.
  • loves to sing to music while riding in the car with mommy.  he loves christian radio and belts out all of the songs he knows.  (he also loves a little jason aldean, no problems there.)
  • loves disney movies.  loves to go to the movies, loves to rent dvds, loves to watch them over and over and over again!
  • still loves to go to the big city!  loves going to town to see where daddy works and to try new restaurants.
  • loves to smile, giggle, joke around, and laugh - laugh - laugh!  he keeps us laughing and smiling because his behaviour is infectious!
  • loves going to preschool!  he has lots of friends in his class and often talks about connor, joshua, and lucas.
  • loves his neighbor - dylan - and they constantly call out for each other to come swing or go swimming!
  • loves his awana class every wednesday night.  we've been very impressed by his memory verse skills and how it's helped us help him understand the love of Jesus.
  • still loves halloween.  dax looks forward to halloween all year.  its a special day for us since it's when we got the call about his match, and we just sometimes wonder if he knows how special this day is for all of us.  it's really the beginning of our joyous journey of his sweet little life.
  • still loves pizza, pasta, popcorn, crackers, apples, oranges, mango, fruity ice creams, vanilla cake, pancakes, and most other carbohydrates!
  • loves to play on his swing set out back.  he loves to slide his toys down the slide and watch them reach the bottom before he can race to pick them up.  he loves being pushed on the swings and is working on getting himself going on the swings.
  • loves swimming!  he did great with swimming lessons this year and everyone was impressed this summer about how well he was doing in the pool and at the beach.  we hope to keep him swimming through winter at the indoor pool.
  • loves that he got to welcome one of his auntie's to the carolinas this fall.  now aunti conti and keek live just about ten minutes away.  dax is looking forward to family meal times being a little bit bigger and also looking forward to a slumber party at conti's house and watching a movie on her giant new television!
  • loves dancing to songs like "i like to move it, move it" or "kick the dust up" - there's a little something for everyone!  we love to watch him do his "break dancing".
  • loves saying his prayers every night.  he talks to God and tells him all that he's thankful for and prays for his friends, his teachers, the preschool director, and his little baby sister that he hopes will come soon!
  • dax still loves raffie and sleep with him every night.
    • he sometimes takes him on car rides, to school, and always on long road trips.
four years old is going to be amazing.  he's so sweet and sensitive.  sometimes you'll just get an "i love you momma".  melts the heart.  dax's speech is getting much easier to understand and he's really voicing his likes and dislikes.  he can tell us when he wants to do something or when he'd rather not.  most things don't present as a battle anymore, unless you try to convince him to go potty right in the middle of an activity that he really wants to partake in.  we love spending time with him and helping him grow, learn, and love.  he's a people person and loves meeting people and charming them right in with his personality.  everyone loves dax.  no doubt about it.  we know we said last year that three was the best, but even though we are now 24 hours into four, i can already guarantee that this year is going to be our best.  love, love, love, love, love you sweet dax.  my baby. er - i mean big boy.

Saturday, October 24, 2015

pumpkin patch '15


today was the day.
if you've read this blog for any length of time you know that the pumpkin patch is our thing.

today we got to take conti with us, so this was a special treat.  we geared dax up for several weeks, reminding him that this was on the schedule.  he got super excited today when he woke up and remembered that today was pumpkin patch day.  he had a blast jumping on the moon bounce pillow, running through mazes, doing duck races, going down the giant slide, watching goats and rabbits, riding the choo-choo train, taking a hayride, running through fields of pumpkins, and eating kettle corn, soft pretzels, and funnel cake.  

we all had a great time just watching this boy grin from ear to ear all day long.  sweet boy's personality was on fire today.  he was hamming it up all afternoon long.  when we went to the pumpkin field dax thought we should probably take home all of the pumpkins, even though there were about a thousand to choose from.  he had a hard time narrowing down the field.  we let him pick our four pumpkins and he selected a wide range from bumpy to green speckled to stemless to lumpy.  they'll be carved up later this week before the big festivities.

so glad we got to spend this day with our sweet boy making more happy memories together.