Wednesday, October 29, 2014

jack o'lantern

somehow we've gotten to the end of october already!  it seems like time is just flying by and we're entering the busiest season of the year.  soon we'll be trick or treating, having daxton's birthday, recovering from his eye surgery, celebrating thanksgiving, and having a merry Christmas!

last night we carved a simple little pumpkin so that we'd have one on our porch this friday.  i had grandiose plans of carving a buzz lightyear pumpkin and even pinned several ideas, but as the time has gotten closer and the nights have gotten shorter we're just running out of time.  so, we pulled out the garbage bag, a giant spoon, a knife, a marker, and selected a pumpkin from the porch.  we thought dax was going to LOVE playing in the pumpkin guts but he ended up having a pretty big meltdown with a lot of "no punki, no, no carv, no gut, no!"  so, will and i just ended up doing the work to get something primitive accomplished so we could get a candle in its belly.  i ended up with a toothpick through my finger and screamed for a medic (just like you see on chopped) after we punched the pumpkin's eye ball out and needed to perform surgery on the jack o'lantern to get his eye reinstalled - but i survived and dax thought it was pretty interesting/entertaining.  

once we got the guts out and mr. pumpkin was all carved up dax thought he was a lot better looking.  he put his "hat" on and then wanted to smile and talk with him.
dax helped daddy put the pumpkin on the porch and told him bye bye until he could see him again in the morning.  he was not as excited as we'd hoped, but we anticipate that trick or treating will be a more successful activity on friday once he finds out he's going to be a certain special disney character.

on a sort of related note we have a ps -

several weeks ago we took dax to our favorite pumpkin patch and he had a blast of a time playing in the hay, riding a choo choo train, taking a hay ride, searching for pumpkins, and jumping around.  we always love our special day at the pumpkin patch since it's where will and i spent so many trips to various pumpkin patches longing to be parents.  (previous posts)  we always love sharing this trip with our sweet boy.

here are our favorite pics from that trip.

dax picked our pumpkins.  he loved the green ones, which we let him bring home - but unfortunately they all rotted before the main event so we had to buy some replacements from the grocery store.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

bye bye "pie!"

it's official.  the passie is no more.  (in our house it was always dubbed the "pie" and i cannot say pie will be no more because then i might actually banish real pie and that would be terrible.  so here, i'll just refer to it as passie, so then everyone knows what we're really talking about.)

dax has been infatuated with the passie since he was a wee little baby.  it wasn't until he was about a year old that i really started to see that it may later become a problem, but at that time i thought well - he's a little guy its no big deal.  so, at about 18 months we made sure he only had it at home, then at two years we made sure he only had it in his bed or in the car, and then recently it was only in bed.  we'd tried a couple of times in between to just take it away all together and were met with full on revolt of this crazy notion.  so, as weak parents we caved within half an hour each time and just said at the next milestone we'd pull up our big parent pants and take it away.  never happened.

fast forward to last week.  it was long about tuesday that the passie got a slit in it from dax chewing on it.  he and i talked about how it was breaking and when it broke we'd have to get rid of it because it would no longer be safe.  we talked about how he did not really need it anymore because he was a big boy and that passies were for babies.  he seemed to be listening and so we thought we might be on to something.  on wednesday night at bed time we told him that we would take him to the disney store and let him pick out a toy in exchange for the passie.  he agreed that was a good idea, but went right back to hard workin' that passie.  i talked about it with him again on thursday and built up the excitement for what was about to happen and did a walk through demonstration of him giving me the passie and me giving him a toy.  he just wanted the passie back, but he was hearing what i was saying.  then, friday came.

on friday i was over the top about how great it was going to be to trade in the passie for the new toy.  he was getting pretty excited.  when daddy got home from work we put the passie in a zip lock bag and all piled in the car towards the store.  when we got there we talked again in the parking garage about what we were going to do inside the mall.  he really seemed okay with the concept.

forgive my quality as i came from the phone.
he grabbed the bag, inspected it, and was ready to run into the mall.  we followed him and guided him down the elevator and off to the disney store.  he loves the store because it has a motion display, a movie screen, and of course a million characters with gobs of paraphernalia.  he quickly ran to the buzz light year display and squatted down to check out buzz and all of his buttons.  after playing with him for about three minutes he laid down the passie in a bag and walked over to look at woody.  i pointed out to will that he was already over the passie.  we let him wander the store and check out all of his favorites.  we were probably in there for over an hour.  (the store is not that big, but its as close to disney world as you get in north carolina.)  it became pretty apparent that we were going to have to get two toys - blade from planes and buzz from toy story.  for the cost of trading in the passie, we were fine with that.  daddy stood in the long line and waited our turn.  when the time got close i got dax over into the line and told the cashier what our payment terms were.  

forgive my quality as i came from the phone.
dax handed over the passie in a bag as he sat on the counter.  he was irritated that we had to put the buzz in the bag, but once he saw that the bag had disney characters he was okay with it.  and so happily - he left the store.  we made it to the clarks store (two doors down) before he had to open the bag and open the box to retrieve buzz.  the shoe salesman actually cut buzz from his twist ties to please our happy fellow.  as we left the building he said "bye bye pie!"  memories of passie were long gone.

or were they?

well, he was happy in the car and we took him to an old fashioned diner.  we wanted to go somewhere he would find fun and where he could be loud (himself) if needed.  he loved putting money into the juke box on the table and didn't really care that ours was broken and would only play one song.  in the end it was just about putting the money in and getting it back out, so i gave him a stack of 2 pence coins that he played with.  he was happy with his mickey shaped pancakes, a slurp of a chocolate shake, and being allowed to stand up in the booth.  

forgive my quality as i came from the phone.
 the ride home was a bit long, about 40 minutes, and we thought for sure he'd fall asleep in the car.  he was up way after his bed time and we were hoping this would work to our advantage.  when we got home he was really sleepy, but not asleep.  as soon as we got into his room he asked for the "pie".  then, started the quiver lip.  the quiver lip kills me.  first of all its precious and second of all its sad that he is sad.  its too much.  however, this is why we left the passie at the store.  it was as much for him knowing it was traded in for buzz as it was for will and i to not have something to fall back on.  at one point will went to get his phone out of his pocket and dax thought for sure he was going for the passie.  he started to cry.  we told him that he had buzz now and the passie was gone.  he really did sob in mourning.  we hugged on him, loved on him, cradled him, and rocked him while he processed it all.  in the end he wanted to read every book that was out (we usually just do 3, but we did 8) - just to prolong the inevitable.  once we were done with books and we told him no more books he wanted to watch a tv show.  we told him it was too late and he needed to go to sleep.  in his bed.  with buzz.  he ran and got buzz and put him in the bed and then smiled and ran to me.  he hugged me in a full body hug as i sat on the floor.  will smiled as tears ran down my face because he knew that i knew at that moment that dax got it.  the passie was gone and buzz was here in his place.

he's looked terribly sad each night when it's time to actually lay down and put his head on raffie (that's what he uses for his pillow) and on the first night he wasn't quite sure what to do with his hands, but each night gets a little easier than the first and by the third night he wasn't even asking for it any more.  

nap times are still pretty rough because we're battling the fact that he soothed himself to sleep with the passie and the fact that he's exerting some independence about almost being three years old (gasp) and so he likes to say "no nap", "no nigh nigh", "no bed", "no mommy, no".  he says all this with his back to me, arms crossed, in a very sassy tone.  i laugh (to myself of course) and i ask him where did he learn this?  of course he wont divulge his sources, but it makes for rough afternoons.  pretty much all this week he's either fallen asleep on my lap, on the couch, or not napped at all.  today however, i finally won the battle.  he is resting now, as i type in his bed with nothing but a raffie and buzz by his side.

so, we're really calling it a huge success and there's no looking back.

to infinity and beyond!

Thursday, September 4, 2014


wednesday was dax's first day at preschool.  it's hard to believe he is already in "school", but he is more than ready.  since i work from home he's been getting pretty bored with the situation lately and we're excited that he'll get to go to preschool two days a week for 3.5 hours where they'll focus on making friends, learning about Jesus, and having a grand old time.  

his first day went very well and he got a good report.  he ate all of his lunch and even took a nap that evening.  he's a little social butterfly, so we think it's really going to be a lot of fun for him to build friendships and find some play mates.

the school/church is only two miles from our house, so we're really blessed to have a quick commute to and from.  the teachers and director are so friendly and genuine loving people that we feel uber comfortable leaving our sweet boy in their care.  we know they're focused on showing the love of Christ to these littles and we're excited for this opportunity for him.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

project: big boy bed

the finished product
we could not be more thrilled with project:  big boy bed.   we didn't want to jinx ourselves, but things have gone really well for us so far as the transition goes from crib to dax's big boy bed.  we kept him involved in the entire process and talked a lot about the change that was about to happen, and we really think he was ready for the big day.

here are some snap shots of daxton seeing his big boy bed for the first time.

climbing up!

bouncing!  that's what tiggers do best!

clearing everything off the bed!

except for raffie.

being a silly goose.

testing out the resting.
knock on wood he's slept one week without incident.  he still asks to go to "nigh nigh" when he's tired and we've only had a couple of nights where he couldn't resist the urge to stay awake and read some books or check things out.  naps have been harder than bed time (i think just because of the day light and the fact that he's not THAT tired yet).  however, today he took a 4 hour nap, so maybe we're working back into a pattern.

we have a baby gate on the door, so this helps to keep him safe and from wandering the house in the middle of the night.  we think the thing that we have going for us is that he likes his bed and his room, and often will just ask to go in there to play - so hopefully that will never change.

Thursday, August 21, 2014

big boyness and stripping the bed

after about 12 hours worth of work.
baby boy is growing up.  

we recently started the process of moving him out of his crib and into a big boy bed.  we didn't need to move him because he was climbing out, but because every time he would go into a room with a bed he'd shout "BED" and run and lay down on it with his hands behind his head like he was relaxing.  we thought just maybe he was trying to tell us something.  

i purchased a jenny lind style bed frame off craig's list last year for $50.  it sat in our garage for about 8 months until we thought he was just about ready.  then, a few weekends ago we went and purchased a mattress and began the process of cleaning up the bed frame to get it ready for a make over.

turns out the bed was slathered in two layers of latex paint and ever since then we've been chemical stripping, scraping, hand sanding, electric sanding, rinse and repeat.  its been hours and hours of grueling sweaty hard work out in the garage, but i think we're finally getting to the stage where i might (just might) be able to paint in the next few days.  i've always enjoyed a project (ahem) but not necessarily the prep work of said project.  so, the fun part is coming up and i can hardly stand it.  we let dax direct the redesign of the "new" room and he's using his favorite colors and we think he's really going to like it when its all said and done.

the mattress was delivered last thursday night and we set it up in dax's room on the floor on friday.  he's done a very good job of sleeping in it at night, but naps have proven to be a little more challenging because he is not yet "that" tired that he can omit all distractions and actually lay there untempted.  we're hoping that with the mattress actually in its frame and a side rail up that he may feel a little more confined and thereby a little more "sleepy".  

i have to go public and say i did get teary eyed the first night we tucked him into his big boy bed (a.k.a. mattress on the floor).  it was kind of sad to say (yet another) bye bye baby and move onward towards big boyness, but i keep having to remind myself like i remind him - that the crib is for babies and we're probably gonna need that soon for his baby sister.

Saturday, August 2, 2014

into the swing of things

james, conti carla, great granny, will, dax, adri, vicki, tom
we had a great time on vacation and this week has been a shock back into reality.  that's always the hardest fall!  at the beach we really enjoyed spending time at the ocean, swimming in the pool, cruising around on the golf cart, hanging out with our family and pigging out on some seafood.  even great granny (90.5 years old) drove the golf cart!  everyone had a great time cruising around!

dax's favorite game of the week was taking all of the pool toys and throwing them into the pool.  great granny would attempt to pull them all back out, but within minutes he'd gather them all and toss them back in.  at one point we had so many pool toys in the pool that people actually could not swim.  

it took us about four days that week to get things together before we could obtain the family picture above.  we had issues with humidity, a photographer stalker who hijacked my camera (don't even get me started on this one), a child with a mask wandering around the beach that scared dax to death, and rain.  however, everyone was a trooper and wore these same outfits (we did a lot of laundry) three days in a row.  one night we went to the same restaurant wearing the same clothes and they had to wonder if this was our uniform.  

special thanks to conti carla for taking our family portrait!

our fundraising efforts are officially in full swing.  will recently received two unexpected monetary donations that we're extremely grateful for and we sold quite a few t-shirts this past week.  there's additional progress on the book illustration and are excited for that to be completed so we can start selling those.  every little bit adds up and we know that when it's meant to be - we'll be ready.

Monday, July 28, 2014

searching for bliss

It is with great excitement that we announce the commencement of our second domestic infant transracial adoption process!  We've recently been pre-approved and have now submitted our formal application with Bethany Christian Services.   While the initial paperwork chase will be less time consumptive, the wait for a second child may take longer.  Our family has decided to seek a baby girl, which could again delay the search time.

We will be creating a profile book using photos of our family get togethers and other special memories with Dax to "show off" our family to any expectant parents.  Along with the book we'll also be working on some fundraising opportunities to help fund the process. We would appreciate your help in sharing the word!

 Fund raisers include:

·          Etsy Store - Hand Made Goods & Art Work

·          Mommy's Freckles - Children's Book

· - Affiliate Link

·          Donations

God has entrusted us with a special gift in being adoptive parents and we look forward to seeing how He expands our family through future adoptions. We cannot thank you enough for being a part of our lives, praying for us, and helping us continue our journey to build our family as we search for Bliss.

With Love,

Will, Adri & Dax

Tuesday, July 1, 2014

catching up

wow, time is really flying by!  i knew summer time was a busy time, but somehow we got all the way from may to the first of july without one single blog entry!  whoops!  we've been keeping busy with work, outdoor concerts, going to the pool, taking little mini trips that included my dad's retirement party in va, a visit to will's parents in western nc, and a trip to the train museum and nc zoo.  dax had a fun time with all of it.  he's really getting into going places and when we sometimes find him with his favorite item of the day standing by the front door saying "go"!  he's definitely on the move, and doesn't like to be still.  he keeps folks entertained and he's even doing pretty good at entertaining himself these days.  today he played for several hours with some chalk and two race cars.  he drove them all over the "road" that we'd drawn on the wall and he even chattered to the cars - although i have no idea what they were carrying on about.  

his recent 2.5 year check up checked out well and the doctor said he was looking good.  thankfully he got no shots this time, so he really liked seeing all of the doctor's tools and getting a sticker.  

mother's day 2014
mother's day - music in the park
stanley, nc - transportation museum
first ride on a real choo choo train!
nc zoo in asheboro, nc
nc zoo
park in greensboro - dancing to african drummers
chalk drawing at namaw and poppie's - waynesville, nc
hanging out at gran-gran's retirement party - roanoke, va
picking blueberries  in namaw and poppie's back yard - waynesville, nc
all of this fun has made our boy tired and gotten him a little off his sleep schedule.  some afternoons daddy has to wake him up from his long afternoon naps.
while all of this fun has been going on we've also got some major happenings in the works over here.  we'll be updating everyone with more details on all of that soon, but just don't think we're sitting around watching real housewives and eating chocolate candy. 

although, there is nothing wrong with that.